Values You Live By
What do you value most in life?
I can assure you whatever your values are, their impact is showing up in your life right now.
Your values shape how you see the world and how you show up in it.
Don’t value money?
Maybe that’s why so many people have so little of it right now?
Or maybe you think you value money but you have other values that are much more important to you and therefore they take precedence of it.
Maybe you think you value close relationships?
However look at the vast majority of relationships in your life right now and their state? Do you honestly value deep loving relationships with the men and women in your life? (I said loving not intimate 😉 )
Kanye West is realizing he needs to reassess his values because the ones he lived by, have had a major impact on his business, relationships with his fans and his income. Laying off employees and closing the doors to your clothing store because of your past actions (actions based on values) will definitely have you reevaluating what you value most.
It’s usually not until someone experiences negative effects on the outside that they start to reassess what’s going on on the inside. And even then that can be a process of awareness on their part.
What will you value when you’re experiencing your last breath?
The memories you create tomorrow are based on the values you live by today.
Here are values I’ve discovered over the past year that are congruent with my current self and how I interpret them.
I’ve had to consciously create space for these to show up. Making a space and allowing my higher purpose to make itself present has seemed elusive but today I realize it’s just part of the process that’s required.
Sometimes you wake up and you know what that purpose is. For the rest of us, you discover it through a process of steps, experiences and relationships.
However it happens, be open to it and allow it to come into your life.
The higher good or purpose of an individual or group cannot be forced upon them. The highest good or purpose can only be discovered through process and experience.
If anything the journey to discovery can make for one hell of a story and can make you that much more confident in life.
I share these values openly with you today:
My Core Values
Freedom – I am most attached to freedom emotionally, spiritually and physically speaking. I realize my new lesson may be to find this freedom even when my physical self may be arrested from freedom. (Desmond Tutu) I value it most because I have the most attachment to it. (interesting thought)
Love– For the self as I see him and projecting that love upon (and seeing within others even if they may not)
Passion– Living and doing with passion even if I’m not exactly sure where I’m headed.
Awareness– Witnessing my experiences when it serves me to so that I respond to people and situations rather than react and lose my cool. Awareness around my relationships, my growth, my releases, my attachments, etc…
Honesty– This is honesty within, about myself and to myself. The more honest I am about my perceptions of myself the more aware I am of my attachments to them.
Inspiration– I find this the most joyous, as I am a portal to the energy which lies on the other side. Here I find and allow creativity to move through me. I remain open as the instrument of this energy. I find inspiration in all that I see good within myself.
Acceptance– What I resist will persist. Accept all that shows up. Higher self responds- Lower self reacts
Creativity– This is one of my favorites. We are all creators and have gifts of creativity. That doesn’t have to be just art, music or performing.
Integrity– Integrity through my thoughts, words and deeds. A wholeness of self.
Appreciation– Of all of the little and great things that I witness without judgment
Resourcefulness– It’s not about your resources but about your resourcefulness
Experience– “having experiences” I should say. I believe experiential learning is one of the powerful tools ever.
Humor– Giving the gift of humor is one of the best gifts. I love to laugh as well as entertain and laugh. Laughter is the vitamin of the soul.
Intimacy– Intimacy of the self and with the self. Giving the gift of intimate connected moments with yourself, friends, family and your lover.
Sexuality– The expression of ones passion, awareness, connectedness, creativity, appreciation and acknowledgment of self love. To frolic, to appreciate to elevate and combine the sexual energy of our wisdoms in harmony is the greatest (and intimate) gift one can give to the other.
Wittiness– Who doesn’t like a sharp tongue with a dash of humor 😉
Stillness– I find myself most connected in “the gap” of my existence. The gift of stillness involving all and nothing. This is where I go to meet and appreciate the intimacy of my own self and it’s connection to the divinity.
Gratefulness– How can I be trusted with more when I don’t appreciate what is currently within my care? (relationships, awareness, connectedness…)
Openness– Open to my own divinity of which I see most in myself and others. Open to their thoughts, they are my thoughts, open to their fears, for they are my fears, open to their passions, for they are my passions. Where connectedness stops, the phrase: “I already know that,” is found.
Compassion = To witness in action. To see them in their struggles and provide them a hand without attachment
Empathy– To see through their eyes, to support them through yours, without attachment to their story…
Learning– The passionate pursuit of discovering new ways to mastering my emotions, physical and mental skills & spiritual awareness that I use to contribute to my vision of a better world. When my behaviors change, true learning has occurred.
Money– To not value money is to not respect it. Without valuing it, its riches would be squandered and I’d be able to do no more good by it. Besides, I can help a lot more people if I’m rich with it than if I am poor by it.
Excellence-I have taken time and continue to dedicate time to mastering my craft(s) and perform them to the best of my ability. I’ve charted a course out into the jungle of human value and I’ve found my way and can bring back value because of my dedication to excellence.
Collaboration-To come together with those like minds and not so like mind, but who value excellence, learning and contribution in order to create and leave better those who we touch with our creations.
Contribution– To provide value to those around me and to contribute to the change I most see in the world by defined thoughts, actions and deeds.
Relationships– I’ve always thought I’ve valued relationships, I’m not just talking about intimate ones either. I’m talking about deep connected loving relationships with friends and family and letting them know how I feel about them. That I appreciate them and their value in my life.
Optimism-Maybe a bit questionable as far as a value but still extremely important to hold yourself and the world in a favorable light.
Your Next Steps:
- Write down what you think you value most.
- Now assess your current life in the realm of health, relationships and money (The big 3) to see what you value most in your life currently by noticing what’s showing up in your life. (Or what isn’t)
- You can also use the reverse engineering I’ve shared here before and write down what you don’t like about your life right now (because that seems to come super easy to lots of people) then you’ll be able to see what you value most just by reading the negative. (Broke? Maybe you don’t value money or creating value for others in a way that you’ll be compensated for it)
- You can also reverse engineer what you don’t like about your current status by writing out the opposite positive to see what would be necessary to value in order to pursue that vision.
I’ll admit, health is one of the things I don’t value as much as I do the other areas. (You don’t see it in the list above do you?)
This is my next step to wholeness.
Ultimately there are a top 5 or 6 values that you hold dear whether you’re conscious of it or not. I have 6 top core values out of this list but those are for me and to not influence you I’ll keep them to myself.
So it’s time to discover what you value most.
It helps if you take some time on this and really be honest and open with yourself.
If you’re already crystal clear on what you value most, share them with us here so that others may begin to research and discover their values through your contribution. 🙂
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ateegarden (Tony Teegarden) says
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Very inspiring Tony. This has to be read again to let it sink in completely.
Have only been discovering the values I consciously and unconsciously live by.
Wisdom : Seek answers, find solutions, let veils fall as the sufis say ,to find meaning and live by it..to be humbled by it
Beauty: That moment when the beauty in this world stuns us; the wind, the sky with rays of light as the sun sets, the white Alps, orchids, architecture, the whole world..to be stunned into that moment with Beauty.
Nurture: To listen to souls, to hear their hearts, to let them be, to find ways so they may walk..
Stillness: When everything softens, and thoughts, and emotions lay still. When the Oneness flows through me
Joy. When we enjoy everything that is. Because we are here to live in bliss no?
Inspiration: To be touched by the Muse and have it touch others through me and my work, my life.
Goodness: Always, always goodness. Never to harm, to not hurt, to let all be in peace
Am still discovering how to find the work that can result from these values..
Thank u for the inspiration. Do read Nadia at Happy Lotus’s new post. Forget about mission statements..whats your creed?
Tony Teegarden says
Wonderful shares Uzma.
The work that will result with make it’s way. Just keep creating the space Uzma. Thank you for always being so open here and practicing your patience with me and the other readers as you share your journey.
I haven’t read her new post but I will do so now. 🙂
I’ve not really ever thought about this in the manner you describe. Great food for thought. From my gut my top 6 values would be
1. Honesty/Integrity (go hand and hand in my mind)
2. Love (for self and others)
6. Open Mindedness
Tony Teegarden says
Hey Jenn thanks for sharing!
Yes it’s a unique way to view values maybe. (Some may say not) Regardless It’s a pretty important topic! Thanks for sharing your top 6.
If you’re curious email me and I’ll share something I noticed about your top 6 that may support you in one of your endeavors. 😉
I am most certainly interested…email will be forth coming.
ateegarden (Tony Teegarden) says
Um, Are these your values? [link to post] [New Post]
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What I value most – in terms of what I put my time into.
Relationships – face to face and online.
Blogging – doing my best to give value (I hope others agree)
Health – a daily walk usually a couple of miles or so.
Money – learning about marketing, submitting guest posts, participating in fora and commenting on blogs.
Overarching values: authenticity, elated-calmness
Tony Teegarden says
Awesome list Evan!
Glad to see money in the top 5. It’s sure to show up in your life. Let me know how I can support you and for SURE do your one on ones for your site! lol
Thank YOU Tony for creating this space where we may express ourselves , introspect and learn in the process. It is my pleasure to be here. Am quite humbled that you thanked me for my patience..what patience!! this is creative inspiration and learning…Thank u for sharing your journey and wisdom with us.
Like Gurl, am curious too as to what you think emerges from my value list. Do let please, if you don’t mind.
Tony Teegarden says
You’re welcome Uzma 🙂
As far as your values list they really seem fine. I only commented on Gurls because her and I have communicated personally on some of her goals, intentions and blocks. I saw one value that was possibly missing that may help.
Really values are key to unlocking where we focus our energies. If we’re not conscious of our highest values we act in ways that are in contradiction to our desires.
Reassess your intentions, look at your current outcomes and quite possibly this will reveal your highest values. If your values don’t align with your actions you’re probably getting outcomes that you don’t want.
Consciously reassess if your current values are leading you towards what you believe fulfills you.
Hopefully that helps 🙂
Thank u for that Tony.I can see that there is a misalignment with my values, action and outcome.Now have to dig deeper to figure out more.Thank u for your thoughtful reply.
Thomas Mrak says
Enriching the world with music and great stories and getting paid for it.
Teaching other musicians and writers how to improve.
Having the courage to move forward when I am scared to death and uncertain.