Gaining Access To Your Inner Peace
I felt it prudent after this past weeks heavy posts that I clarify something my good friend Evan brought to my attention. I’m taking his comment a tad out of context but to see it in its entirety go to the comments secion:
“My concern is that people who have had really awful experiences being told to ‘think differently about them and it will be OK”. I think this kind of insensitivity is motivated by the fear of having to deal with others awful experiences.”
He’s right, and it’s something I’ve thought I was extremely conscious of here at the blog. Matter of fact as I research other personal development blogs I see the cupcake advice on the law of attraction that’s given and it almost pains me just how little they scrape the surface of the work that’s required for people to make a true transition in their life.
My Process Not Yours
Prior to living more consciously of my actions and emotions, I had acquired lots of life stuff as beliefs and fixed perceptions about the way life actually was, which most weren’t true of course.
Your experiences are completely different although some of my experiences may resonate with you, hence why you read the blog. But as I’ve stated, I’m not your guru. Your experiences are yours and yours alone.
For myself, accessing my inner piece has been about peeling away those layers of beliefs so that I don’t continue running the emotional loops of behavior. In the beginning stages of this work I found I was attempting to overlay peace on top of chaos. (Chaos-Unresolved emotions & beliefs causing the loops of behavior) It didn’t work very well, at least not for me.
However once I started working on the shadow beliefs I had acquired over the years and shedding light on them, I was able to gain access to more of that inner peace and joy that we all posses originally as children.
Why? Because I was able to stand in my truth, go(ing) through the work and dissolve the past stuff in my life that was causing my emotional loops. Get to the root of some of that stuff, you’re able to not only stop those loops but realign yourself with new ones that serve you towards a healthier lifestyle.
Traumatic Experiences
Traumatic experiences can and usually do require professional assistance 1st and foremost.
I for one did have almost 3 years of professional psychiatric help after my child abuse at the age of 8. I was definitely traumatized and I to this day believe that work is one of the reasons I’ve had the ability and desire to go within. My curse was my blessing I would say. My therapy at such a young age taught me much about identifying and exploring my emotions although I wasn’t always so successful in the beginning. I did have issues.
I had just pulled out my Maxwell Maltz Psycho-Cybernetics CD’s to listen to again last week and ironically came across a great review of the book at Abundance Blog. I found something that ties directly with what we’re talking about here. In the comments section of that post Marelisa says that Maxwell left out one important thing, to go within, identify and “remove” the negative self image causes. (Beliefs & emotions causing the negative self image) I absolutely believe this fact. Transforming your self image before addressing the stuff is just not a great idea.
I realize this is the work the vast majority of people just aren’t willing to do. It’s so much easier to attempt to seek stuff outside of ourselves. Or over eat, smoke, drink excessively, gamble, porn addiction etc.
I completely agree with Evan. Telling someone they can simply think differently and it’s all going to be OK is absolutely naive and would be irresponsible of someone to suggest as a cure all.
My Disclaimer (Again)
This blog is for the more so, healthy individual, looking to go within explore and optimize the self who is here and now so I absolutely wouldn’t advocate insensitive advice and I’m glad Evan realized that. If this blog digs up deeper more sensitive (traumatic) stuff you should seek the advice of a professional. Not a blog.
I’d say for me at least looking further into competing commitments, personal prejudices and shadow beliefs may assist in making the peace more accessible and applicable. It may not be true for everyone but may be for someone. That someone may be you.
Included to assist in transformation and to make yourself feel good I believe it’s important to:
- Practice Daily Meditation (To access that inner place of peace)
- A balanced diet including lots of fruits & veggies
- Proper Hydration (Lots of water)
- Daily exercise or Yoga (The positive effects mentally alone are worth it)
There are many levels to personal development and it’s not a one size fits all. Digging into and letting go of my past hurtful experiences has certainly been an important part for me but it doesn’t stop me from implementing the other stuff I just outlined. The positive mental effects alone of exercise, proper hydration & diet are huge.
Transformation is easy but it isn’t effortless. It takes hard work but the benefits are worth it. 🙂
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Yeah, sometimes I get frustrated too by traditional law of attraction teaching that basically says use your thoughts to feel good about your life and then your life begins to change….I believe this is an incomplete statement because we do have obstacles and personal traumas that require us to do a lot of inner work and deal with difficult emotions…I don’t believe in dwelling on the frustrating aspects of personal trauma or putting yourself through unnecessary suffering…But, I think we need to acknowledge sometimes that we are frustrated with certain aspects of ourself so that we can bring those frustrations to light and eventually after working through them release those frustrations…
Yeah, sometimes I get frustrated too by traditional law of attraction teaching that basically says use your thoughts to feel good about your life and then your life begins to change….I believe this is an incomplete statement because we do have obstacles and personal traumas that require us to do a lot of inner work and deal with difficult emotions…I don’t believe in dwelling on the frustrating aspects of personal trauma or putting yourself through unnecessary suffering…But, I think we need to acknowledge sometimes that we are frustrated with certain aspects of ourself so that we can bring those frustrations to light and eventually after working through them release those frustrations…
Such a great point Matt. Dwelling on crap from the past just to emotionally punish ourselves isn’t a solution to living more in the moment. However defining your desired outcome, doing the work purposely one could find themselves working through a process to a much more emotionally free place. Thanks for stopping by and contributing 🙂
Such a great point Matt. Dwelling on crap from the past just to emotionally punish ourselves isn’t a solution to living more in the moment. However defining your desired outcome, doing the work purposely one could find themselves working through a process to a much more emotionally free place. Thanks for stopping by and contributing 🙂
Hi Tony, it may have been my perfectionism getting out of control.
I do think that you normally are very careful about this.
Also I think people can come to our blogs on any page and so may not get the full sense of what we do on our blogs. This is part of the reason too.
Thanks for the mention.
Hi Tony, it may have been my perfectionism getting out of control.
I do think that you normally are very careful about this.
Also I think people can come to our blogs on any page and so may not get the full sense of what we do on our blogs. This is part of the reason too.
Thanks for the mention.
Evan,
I don’t think it was perfectionism out of control at all. I think it was valuable statement. You’re also not incorrect about people visiting a single page and knowing everything we’re about. Some things may be out of context or may not be for them where they’re at in the moment. That’s ok, I realize I can’t be everything to everyone. I’m only looking for someone to connect with anyway. 🙂 Thanks for inspiring me to do the past brother.
Evan,
I don’t think it was perfectionism out of control at all. I think it was valuable statement. You’re also not incorrect about people visiting a single page and knowing everything we’re about. Some things may be out of context or may not be for them where they’re at in the moment. That’s ok, I realize I can’t be everything to everyone. I’m only looking for someone to connect with anyway. 🙂 Thanks for inspiring me to do the past brother.
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This was a really interesting and helpful post to me. I found your searing honesty very refreshing. I’ll be reading more of your blog from now on.
This was a really interesting and helpful post to me. I found your searing honesty very refreshing. I’ll be reading more of your blog from now on.
Fiona, Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. I’m glad my work resonates with you and that you’ll be visiting more often. I look forward to your contributions 🙂
Fiona, Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. I’m glad my work resonates with you and that you’ll be visiting more often. I look forward to your contributions 🙂
Good Post Again Tony:
You speak of getting rid of the ‘loops’ meaning looped thinking…I believe you are referring to a reprogramming of ones subconscious mind are you not? That takes time, I know from experience.
As far as Trying to change all the ouside of yourself as it were thru Positive Affirmations, Self -Help materials etc., I could not agree with you more on this. As you said you must get rid of those negative ‘Root’ issues first before true transformation can take place,,,all the self-help stuff on the planet is no good if you can not be honest enough to face your demons & deal with them. The kind of self-help that seeks to change a person without going ‘within’ & being honest about our faults just by saying a mantra, reading a book, listening to endless audios is nothing but Narcissism. It reminds me of how some college buddies of mine who painted houses in the summer tried to paint a house that was infected with mold, without dealing with the ‘Mold’ issue …in a few months time the new Paint job looked as bad as before ,,,same withat person who does not deal with inner issues, sooner or later they show up again
Matt Geib.
Good Post Again Tony:
You speak of getting rid of the ‘loops’ meaning looped thinking…I believe you are referring to a reprogramming of ones subconscious mind are you not? That takes time, I know from experience.
As far as Trying to change all the ouside of yourself as it were thru Positive Affirmations, Self -Help materials etc., I could not agree with you more on this. As you said you must get rid of those negative ‘Root’ issues first before true transformation can take place,,,all the self-help stuff on the planet is no good if you can not be honest enough to face your demons & deal with them. The kind of self-help that seeks to change a person without going ‘within’ & being honest about our faults just by saying a mantra, reading a book, listening to endless audios is nothing but Narcissism. It reminds me of how some college buddies of mine who painted houses in the summer tried to paint a house that was infected with mold, without dealing with the ‘Mold’ issue …in a few months time the new Paint job looked as bad as before ,,,same withat person who does not deal with inner issues, sooner or later they show up again
Matt Geib.
Thanks for the insight Matt. The only thing I would say is that it all of that reading, listening and such at the same time as we are uncovering the shadows does assist one in making the transformation along the way. But feel you’re right. Doing all of that stuff with out uncovering and dealing with those shadow beliefs is pretty much narcissistic. I love the painting analogy. Great point brother. Thanks!
Thanks for the insight Matt. The only thing I would say is that it all of that reading, listening and such at the same time as we are uncovering the shadows does assist one in making the transformation along the way. But feel you’re right. Doing all of that stuff with out uncovering and dealing with those shadow beliefs is pretty much narcissistic. I love the painting analogy. Great point brother. Thanks!