- Question The Definition of Success
Defining Life’s Outcomes
In his book Real Magic, outcome is the 2nd way of enlightenment through living in what Wayne Dyer calls the 3 ways people live their lives:
- Through suffering
- Through outcome
- On purpose
Living life through suffering just plain sucks, especially if you become conscious of it and continue to do it. (Yup I’m guilty) I tend to believe people live through suffering when they don’ raise their level of conscious living.
Living our lives through outcome is where we live by deadlines & expectations of a certain end result. It’s much better than suffering however it doesn’t come with out it’s stresses too. We tend to allow things outside of ourselves to dictate how we feel when we encounter an outcome.
Living our lives on purpose is where you don’t feel you put effort into making things happen in the traditional sense. You do put forth effort. From some peoples perceptions you may be working hard, but from your perspective you just flow and be. Much like I feel when I’m writing here at TonyTeegarden.com. đ I do it purposely and with a plan however it feels natural.
There are lots of people living in suffering and even more simmering between suffering and outcome. Let’s talk about it.
Interpreting Life’s Outcomes
Purposely raising your level of consciousness is a major step in investing in your self growth. Aligning your thoughts and actions from suffering to outcome doesn’t always happen consciously though. At least it didn’t for me for years.
When coming from a life of suffering, this may be the only way of learning that a person would know.
You may be moved to make a shift in the quality of your life but you may make this shift unconsciously. A great pain of some sorts forces you to align yourself in a different manner than you have before. It causes different thought and you take a different action. This creates a different outcome.
This is good, however it’s a formula you probably wouldn’t be aware of and the emotional loop of what you say you don’t want, would find it’s way back into your life. It permeates your personal as well as business. This has happened to me more times than I can count. I found myself replaying the same emotional loops over and over. Like I talked about in yesterday’s post I had emotional childhood loops running my head like:
- I’m not wanted
- I was a mistake
- I’m not loved
Obviously I realize these are bullshit beliefs, but never the less they are there and they must be unearthed, marched into the light and dealt with.
Begin to put some time into interpreting your end results to reflect positive growth. You except how you got your end result in the realm of suffering by taking responsibility. You finally break through because your spirit has had enough.
Eventually enough is enough and you have an internal shift.
You may know exactly what I’m talking about here. You’ve probably run up against this feeling before and maybe you didn’t fully shift but you knew something there was awaiting you, something good just patiently awaiting your arrival. It’s just a knowing you have but it seems elusive and just beyond your comprehension. This is emotional outcome & living in expectation. It’s better than suffering but it’s not living on purpose.
Changing What Life’s Outcomes Mean
Begin to interpret life’s outcomes more as a choice you made sometime weeks, months or even years ago.
“The outcomes of today are a result of past choices, if you want to make an impact on your immediate future start making better choices today.“-Me
This is part of your shift.
I’ve gone from what I call shit to shift in a moments notice, but for some reason I seemed to like to make the shit part take longer the majority of the time, just to make sure I get the lesson. This was my underlying commitments to suffering even when I consciously believed I was working towards a better outcome.
Ever felt this way?
This is the shadow at work. The work comes by shedding light (making the shadow public) and not giving it any more energy. Shadow is weakened by light (I define light as acknowledgment)
Too many times I didn’t acknowledge my shadow beliefs and I dealt with shit for it through suffering.
In part two I’ll talk about what it means to set up life’s outcomes and how you and I are actually the co-creator of our outcomes.
In the mean time share with me your thoughts.
Any of this resonate with you?
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Hi Tony, I very much agree that the way to deal with our shadow is to shed light upon it. In my experience this brings transformation also.
Looking forward to part 2
Hi Tony, I very much agree that the way to deal with our shadow is to shed light upon it. In my experience this brings transformation also.
Looking forward to part 2
Thanks Evan, Sharing part 2 tomorrow! I wrote all of these posts (Including yesterdays) this past Sunday so they all are incredibly tied together. I look forward to your feedback.
Thanks Evan, Sharing part 2 tomorrow! I wrote all of these posts (Including yesterdays) this past Sunday so they all are incredibly tied together. I look forward to your feedback.
TONY:
Great ‘Brain Food’,,,for much contemplation:-)!
1st thought= “People Live Their Lives THROUGH Suffering” or as one man said “Most folks would rather ENDURE Pain rather than seek pleasure”…I think those of us who would ATTAIN Consciousness must (as you so aptly called it) press through the PAIN & SHIT in order to begin to experience a LIFE of PLEASURE & Fulfillment .I think that BEGINS with knowing we are in SHI*,,,YET can HAVE BETTER,,,in thinking on this I think for a #of years I just thought a life of ‘SHI* happening to me was the norm & I could not change it.
Another thought on this is sometimes we(Or at least Myself) love to roll around down in the SHI*…possibly for attention?, so we stay there longer than we need to…kinda like the guy who said “He kept hitting himself in the head with the Hammer ,cause it felt so GOOD when he quit.”
Some Quotes Here fit in well…
My Favorite Book(The 4:8 Priciple) of 2008 by Tommy Newberry says it well
“When you Bring your THINKING into the DOMAIN of your CONSCIOUS CREATIVE CONTROL you will rapidly discover an enormous advantage in SCULPTING the CONDITIONS of YOUR LIFE.”
—currently on a SIMPLE level Because I have become obsessed in my MIND with getting into fighting shape I am SCULPTING a slimmer,meaner & leaner BODY,,,I have dropped 50+lbs. since Aug.—I am SCULPTING the BODY I DESIRE.
CF Haanel puts it this way…”
Your POWER TO THINK is almost UNLIMITED & this means your POWER TO CREATE the kind of material which is Necessary to BUILD FOR YOURSELF ANY KIND OF ENVIRONMENT which you desire is Practically UNLIMITED.”
and again Haanel says…
“Every time you THINK you start a TRAIN OF CAUSATION which will CREATE a CONDITION in accordance with the QUALITY of the THOUGHT.”
Thanks again for another Stellar, thought provoking Post!
The Great Matt Geib
TONY:
Great ‘Brain Food’,,,for much contemplation:-)!
1st thought= “People Live Their Lives THROUGH Suffering” or as one man said “Most folks would rather ENDURE Pain rather than seek pleasure”…I think those of us who would ATTAIN Consciousness must (as you so aptly called it) press through the PAIN & SHIT in order to begin to experience a LIFE of PLEASURE & Fulfillment .I think that BEGINS with knowing we are in SHI*,,,YET can HAVE BETTER,,,in thinking on this I think for a #of years I just thought a life of ‘SHI* happening to me was the norm & I could not change it.
Another thought on this is sometimes we(Or at least Myself) love to roll around down in the SHI*…possibly for attention?, so we stay there longer than we need to…kinda like the guy who said “He kept hitting himself in the head with the Hammer ,cause it felt so GOOD when he quit.”
Some Quotes Here fit in well…
My Favorite Book(The 4:8 Priciple) of 2008 by Tommy Newberry says it well
“When you Bring your THINKING into the DOMAIN of your CONSCIOUS CREATIVE CONTROL you will rapidly discover an enormous advantage in SCULPTING the CONDITIONS of YOUR LIFE.”
—currently on a SIMPLE level Because I have become obsessed in my MIND with getting into fighting shape I am SCULPTING a slimmer,meaner & leaner BODY,,,I have dropped 50+lbs. since Aug.—I am SCULPTING the BODY I DESIRE.
CF Haanel puts it this way…”
Your POWER TO THINK is almost UNLIMITED & this means your POWER TO CREATE the kind of material which is Necessary to BUILD FOR YOURSELF ANY KIND OF ENVIRONMENT which you desire is Practically UNLIMITED.”
and again Haanel says…
“Every time you THINK you start a TRAIN OF CAUSATION which will CREATE a CONDITION in accordance with the QUALITY of the THOUGHT.”
Thanks again for another Stellar, thought provoking Post!
The Great Matt Geib
Number 1 Congrats on the weight loss and sculpting your body. That ROCKS! I’m super excited for you and glad to hear you’re putting forth action.
It’s not always the easiest thing in the world, to follow the feedback I’m sharing above. My past is unique to me and my ability to deal with this is because of the training & experiences I’ve had. (This is why I’m no ones guru) I shared it because in my past it may have taken me 6 months to deal with the types of emotional experiences I’m now having. However today because of the work I’ve been through I’m able to process things much quicker and simply experience (embrace) what it is I’m feeling in the now. Just get the shit over with right?! lol Why string it out for 5 years when I can pack it all into 5 minutes. (OK, realistically 5 hours) Shifting like this has been a lot of work but it’s allowed me to be open to much deeper experiences in a good way.
Thanks for the contributions from the book Matt and your perspective. Always appreciated when getting feedback on complex experiences like this. You rock!
Number 1 Congrats on the weight loss and sculpting your body. That ROCKS! I’m super excited for you and glad to hear you’re putting forth action.
It’s not always the easiest thing in the world, to follow the feedback I’m sharing above. My past is unique to me and my ability to deal with this is because of the training & experiences I’ve had. (This is why I’m no ones guru) I shared it because in my past it may have taken me 6 months to deal with the types of emotional experiences I’m now having. However today because of the work I’ve been through I’m able to process things much quicker and simply experience (embrace) what it is I’m feeling in the now. Just get the shit over with right?! lol Why string it out for 5 years when I can pack it all into 5 minutes. (OK, realistically 5 hours) Shifting like this has been a lot of work but it’s allowed me to be open to much deeper experiences in a good way.
Thanks for the contributions from the book Matt and your perspective. Always appreciated when getting feedback on complex experiences like this. You rock!
I agree with Mattgeib above–“Great Brain Food” I could TELL you put a LOT effort into this post.
I can’t wait to read #2 already. But let’s go over over this post first.
I always felt #1 since I was growing up..Much of the life-experience really was yearning and deep longing to be with my parents they left us (children I was 4 yrd old). At a young age, I felt pain very deeply. And suffering to me was something that I connected with. I was having a similar experience like you which was reliving my childhood emotional loop. I finally became aware of this when I discovered Taoism and Eastern Philosophy in my late teens.This began my internal shift…. When you said “the shadow at work” I immediately thought of “We don’t become enlightened by imagining forces of light but by making the darkness conscious.” I’m not sure who said this quote but I always thought it’s a brilliant way to express the Light and shadow relationship đ
Living through outcome was experienced around high school to college much of what you shared here, “We tend to allow things outside of ourselves to dictate how we feel when we encounter an outcome” I left this feeling a while
“Living our lives on purpose” is where I have been for a while now and it feels amazing..This story will bring a smile to your face. And I resonate with it because I really feel the BIGNESS to everything I do now with ultimate purpose.
Marci Shimoff book âHappy for No Reasonâ mentions great conductor Arturo Toscanini son was asked, âWhat did Arturo ranked as his most important achievementâ His son Walter said, âFor my father there can be no such thing. Whatever he happens to be doing at the moment is the BIGGEST thing in his lifeâwhether itâs conducting a symphony or peeling an orange.â What a GREAT WAY to LIVE!!!!
THANKS FOR THIS POST =)
I agree with Mattgeib above–“Great Brain Food” I could TELL you put a LOT effort into this post.
I can’t wait to read #2 already. But let’s go over over this post first.
I always felt #1 since I was growing up..Much of the life-experience really was yearning and deep longing to be with my parents they left us (children I was 4 yrd old). At a young age, I felt pain very deeply. And suffering to me was something that I connected with. I was having a similar experience like you which was reliving my childhood emotional loop. I finally became aware of this when I discovered Taoism and Eastern Philosophy in my late teens.This began my internal shift…. When you said “the shadow at work” I immediately thought of “We don’t become enlightened by imagining forces of light but by making the darkness conscious.” I’m not sure who said this quote but I always thought it’s a brilliant way to express the Light and shadow relationship đ
Living through outcome was experienced around high school to college much of what you shared here, “We tend to allow things outside of ourselves to dictate how we feel when we encounter an outcome” I left this feeling a while
“Living our lives on purpose” is where I have been for a while now and it feels amazing..This story will bring a smile to your face. And I resonate with it because I really feel the BIGNESS to everything I do now with ultimate purpose.
Marci Shimoff book âHappy for No Reasonâ mentions great conductor Arturo Toscanini son was asked, âWhat did Arturo ranked as his most important achievementâ His son Walter said, âFor my father there can be no such thing. Whatever he happens to be doing at the moment is the BIGGEST thing in his lifeâwhether itâs conducting a symphony or peeling an orange.â What a GREAT WAY to LIVE!!!!
THANKS FOR THIS POST =)
Therese. Thank you for the Story from “Happy for No Reason.” I had heard of this story before and it was a pleasant reminder of how to live today. Thank you for such a detailed insight. I had written this post (and part 2) right after my much heavier post about my possible biological father. I feel blessed to have amazing people like yourself who share their thoughts on my own experiences and thoughts on life. I’m so glad (and can tell) you’re “on purpose” and am grateful you moved into light with any of your darker stuff. Those that are close to you, family & friends are truly blessed as are you’re readers. Thank you for the effort of your kind words and sharing a bit about your past. đ
Therese. Thank you for the Story from “Happy for No Reason.” I had heard of this story before and it was a pleasant reminder of how to live today. Thank you for such a detailed insight. I had written this post (and part 2) right after my much heavier post about my possible biological father. I feel blessed to have amazing people like yourself who share their thoughts on my own experiences and thoughts on life. I’m so glad (and can tell) you’re “on purpose” and am grateful you moved into light with any of your darker stuff. Those that are close to you, family & friends are truly blessed as are you’re readers. Thank you for the effort of your kind words and sharing a bit about your past. đ