Self Confidence And Alternate Realities
No I haven’t gone space age woo woo on you at all.
I want to share with you a concept I picked up around an idea of alternate realities and how I can support you in creating an alternate reality for yourself starting today. (Of course only if you wish to)
I picked up a quote recently in my research around Self Confidence from Ken Glickman and it goes like this:
“There are many realities in the world and many truths. They exist side by side. By the very nature of who we are we’re forced to live in one reality. Sometimes we have the choice of realities if we’re aware that they’re there.”- Ken Glickman
You have your reality and I have mine right now. They are both as true to us as you feel you’re reading this post or I’m typing it.
The fact is though is that not everyone is pleased with their current reality and they do wish to change it. As in wish upon a star kind of wish.
Instead of changing their reality why is it that so many people just watch others or put upon a pedestal those people who are living the reality they secretly desire?
Is it fear?
- Fear of what what others will say if they fail?
- Fear of responsibility that comes with the new reality?
- Fear of being vulnerable in the process?
Shit, I’m not sure…that list could go on forever. I just want to know one thing…
Why don’t we just change our reality from where we are to where we want to be?
Ok, maybe why isn’t the right kind of question. (I actually know it’s not) There isn’t really an easy button that I’ve found that allows one to just instantly decide to change aside from a near death experience. (Which I don’t encourage)
However there is a framework that one can follow to create that change if they are driven by either enough pain or pulled through by enough pleasure (Or the promise of a desirable outcome) based on their perceived outcome.
The point is we can either choose to create a new reality, or we can continue to be at the mercy of our basic human wants and needs unconsciously without any direction as to where those actions (or inaction’s) will lead us.
It’s been in my experience lots of people don’t create a new reality for themselves because they feel they lack the self confidence to do so. They lack the confidence of whether or not they can handle whatever comes their way in life. The role of self confidence is a tricky one and one that can involve:
- Self image
- Self esteem
- Self concept
- Self worth
We could go into these in detail but they aren’t necessary in order to begin creating that new reality.
I’m talking about creating a reality that encompasses:
- Great health
- A solid emotional foundation
- Deep connected relationships
- Financial prosperity
Sound like bullshit?
Well that could be your perspective but it’s not mine.
Listen, I don’t have my shit 100% together I’ll fully admit. I’m fallible and I’m quite clear on this in my writing.
I could give you a laundry list of stuff about me that is far from exceptional however I choose to focus on my strengths and manage my weaknesses.
Those that portray themselves as perfect & tidy more than likely have their skeletons just clawing to get out of the closet.
However I am armed with one thing that has assisted me in claiming some cool experiences in life along with the feeling that I can handle whatever comes my way.
That one thing is…
Perspective is what shapes our current reality.
If you feel it to be true, then it is. That’s your perspective.
How you see yourself is what you probably see most in the world.
To change our current reality as we know it’s key to accept and own our current reality. That even means accepting what you may not like about you. You don’t have to like it, but we can’t cope with what we aren’t willing to acknowledge.
“When you feel as if you can handle anything that comes you’re way it means you feel confident in purposely and effectively managing your emotions as well as assuming responsibility for your response to whatever it is that comes up. This is a priceless feeling and gives one power over their own life.”
I’ll give you an example:
Do you think your checkbook will magically balance itself every month?
There is a certain amount of confidence that comes from knowing exactly where you’re at with your balance at any time of the month. Even if it’s not the amount you’d prefer it to be.
However, the insecurity and anxiety that comes from not knowing if your next purchase is going to go through will rob you of your energy in the now and distract you from being fully present. It will rob you of self confidence and your ability to cope with your present reality.
The moment you take responsibility over managing your checkbook and it’s balance every month you discover a new found energy and allow yourself to be more present. In this case you’re proactive instead of reactive but keep in mind either way you’re using energy.
One creates creates a reality of tension and anxiety and the other creates a reality of feeling grounded and confident of your current positioning.
I want you to imagine managing your emotions in this same way you would your checkbook:
- What is your emotional bank account like right now?
- What is your self image bank account like right now?
- What is bank account around your perspective of people like?
- What is your actual bank account like?
Are you managing these accounts, or are they going unattended and causing you a reality you don’t care for?
Deep Self Confidence
Do you want approach these area’s with a new perspective and begin to be excited about taking responsibility over your current reality? Let’s face it, we’re like big kids. If we don’t see the benefit (payoff) of taking responsibility we probably won’t.
You really owe it to yourself to invest some time in deepening your own connection with yourself.
Do you feel there’s room for more self confidence? If so share with us what could be possible if you had just 5% more self confidence.
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