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Arguments Opinions Beliefs And Self Identification

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Opinions

“Don’t seek truth, just cease to cherish opinions. Let go of identification with your mind, who you are beyond your mind then emerges by itself.“-Zen Philosophy (From A New Earth)

I want you to imagine something for a moment.

Go back in time and search to see if you have ever been in a position where you found yourself arguing your point with someone and you felt your anger escalating through out your body, your blood pressure going through the roof and your heart almost seems in your throat?

You have a fight or flight mechanism but the flight mechanism ran for cover 10 minutes ago and you’re prepared to not only defend your position like a 10 inch thick brick wall but attack the person with every emotional tank gun, bazooka & bow & arrow in your arsenal.

Your opinion was based on your beliefs and your beliefs are based on your self identification.

To lose the argument was to lose your self identification which would mean the death of your ego.

The ego doesn’t deal with death very well, hence the fight in you.

Beliefs

You’re arguing your opinion because it’s your belief. Seems simple enough right? Because you’re right when you’re arguing your point. That’s why you’re arguing int the first place. Or so you believe.

It’s the reason for arguments, breakups, divorces, lawsuits and wars. The belief of ones self identity is the authority. Beliefs are everything you’ve experienced up until this point and time in your life that you perceive to be true.

The interesting part is most of those beliefs are not true if any. You only believe them to be. It’s ego at work.

Challenge those beliefs if you’re not living right now. Challenge those beliefs if you are so that you’re not stagnant in your being.

Self Identification

Your Beliefs are an extension of your Self Identification and can be changed at any point and time you choose. Be conscious, imagine it and it can be so.

As Wayne Dyer said, “Everything in the world had to be imagined first.”

So imagine the next step and even better place to be where you are becoming aware ofย  yourself becoming the observer observing the observed.

Yes read that again ๐Ÿ˜‰

This is what you are behind your self. You are of source and you are source.

Yes I know this is deep.

This is the place I found myself when I became completely over whelmed by my human experience. Yes I have had some knock down arguments as of late and found myself quite in the human experience.

The key for me is staying connected in that place to begin with. Coming from there already instead of having to go there afterwords. How do you do find yourself doing that? Morning Meditation is a good place to start. As my coach taught me:

  • Wake
  • Pee
  • Meditate

Is this a fail safe way of never getting into an argument, nope. It’s a human condition of which is one of our experiences all of us are bound to have sometime.

Just choose awareness.

This post was just as much for myself more than anything. ๐Ÿ™‚

Make today great, love & Light.

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Filed Under: Learning New Life Skills Tagged With: beliefs, opinions, resolve-arguments, self identification, wayne dyer, Zen

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  1. ateegarden (Tony Teegarden) says

    December 18, 2009 at 4:02 pm

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    December 18, 2009 at 4:02 pm

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  3. Sharla says

    December 18, 2009 at 4:17 pm

    This post is incredible Tony…I can totally relate to being in the EGO and defending what could never really be “proven” anyways (because it was my OPINION). What a straight waste of energy that could be focused on love and attention to myself through meditation…

    Thanks for this reminder and being so transparent!

  4. Sharla says

    December 18, 2009 at 4:17 pm

    This post is incredible Tony…I can totally relate to being in the EGO and defending what could never really be “proven” anyways (because it was my OPINION). What a straight waste of energy that could be focused on love and attention to myself through meditation…

    Thanks for this reminder and being so transparent!

  5. tony says

    December 18, 2009 at 5:24 pm

    Thank you! I fought with posting it, (actually started it two days ago) but after receiving an amazing email from a new friend last night I felt the all systems a go kick in and finished it! So glad I did and I’m glad you got value from it ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. tony says

    December 18, 2009 at 5:24 pm

    Thank you! I fought with posting it, (actually started it two days ago) but after receiving an amazing email from a new friend last night I felt the all systems a go kick in and finished it! So glad I did and I’m glad you got value from it ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. sharlapatrick (Sharla Patrick) says

    December 18, 2009 at 7:03 pm

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  8. sharlapatrick (Sharla Patrick) says

    December 18, 2009 at 7:03 pm

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  9. sharlapatrick (Sharla Patrick) says

    December 18, 2009 at 8:31 pm

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  10. sharlapatrick (Sharla Patrick) says

    December 18, 2009 at 8:31 pm

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  11. Evan says

    December 18, 2009 at 10:12 pm

    Sorry Wayne, some things occur without being imagined. And there are unintended consequences too! Bunner, I know.

  12. Evan says

    December 18, 2009 at 10:12 pm

    Sorry Wayne, some things occur without being imagined. And there are unintended consequences too! Bunner, I know.

  13. tony says

    December 18, 2009 at 10:35 pm

    Wayne? That must have been a typo on your part? Well I should have clarified everything created by man had to be imagined. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  14. tony says

    December 18, 2009 at 10:35 pm

    Wayne? That must have been a typo on your part? Well I should have clarified everything created by man had to be imagined. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  15. theluckdoctor (Michael Searles says

    December 18, 2009 at 10:55 pm

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    December 18, 2009 at 10:55 pm

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  17. Evan says

    December 19, 2009 at 12:27 am

    I was responding to the quote by Wayne Dyer, hence “Wayne.”

  18. Evan says

    December 19, 2009 at 12:27 am

    I was responding to the quote by Wayne Dyer, hence “Wayne.”

  19. tony says

    December 19, 2009 at 1:23 pm

    Evan, I owe you “2” apologies my friend. 1. Wayne=Duh I feel like a goober for not putting the two together. 2. I paraphrased Wayne’s quote and it was everything that “man” created in this world had to be imagined first. Thanks for keeping me on my toes. ๐Ÿ™‚

  20. tony says

    December 19, 2009 at 1:23 pm

    Evan, I owe you “2” apologies my friend. 1. Wayne=Duh I feel like a goober for not putting the two together. 2. I paraphrased Wayne’s quote and it was everything that “man” created in this world had to be imagined first. Thanks for keeping me on my toes. ๐Ÿ™‚

  21. JOAO says

    December 26, 2009 at 1:11 pm

    THIS SO BEAUTIFUL TO SEE READ ETC..ETC. BUT REALLY DO IT IS THE QUESTION…HOW ??
    WHO COULD CONTROL FEELINGS LIKE THAT AND KIND PEOPLE IS WHAT ONE NEEDS TO HAVE TRHIS BEHAVIOUR IN A TOUGH TIME HOUR WITH BAD PEOPLE IN A BAD SITUATION HOW|??

  22. JOAO says

    December 26, 2009 at 1:11 pm

    THIS SO BEAUTIFUL TO SEE READ ETC..ETC. BUT REALLY DO IT IS THE QUESTION…HOW ??
    WHO COULD CONTROL FEELINGS LIKE THAT AND KIND PEOPLE IS WHAT ONE NEEDS TO HAVE TRHIS BEHAVIOUR IN A TOUGH TIME HOUR WITH BAD PEOPLE IN A BAD SITUATION HOW|??

  23. tony says

    December 26, 2009 at 2:44 pm

    Thanks for stopping by Joao and for the kind words. The real questions isn’t how, it’s why. Why would you engage in either self control or discipline yourself from engaging in anger with another person. Once you discover the why connect with that everyday. It’s like taking a shower. Just because you do it once you don’t not shower again. On the same hand I’ll admit, sometimes it’s healthy to vent your anger if you have it. It’s just not ok to project it onto someone else in my opinion.

  24. tony says

    December 26, 2009 at 2:44 pm

    Thanks for stopping by Joao and for the kind words. The real questions isn’t how, it’s why. Why would you engage in either self control or discipline yourself from engaging in anger with another person. Once you discover the why connect with that everyday. It’s like taking a shower. Just because you do it once you don’t not shower again. On the same hand I’ll admit, sometimes it’s healthy to vent your anger if you have it. It’s just not ok to project it onto someone else in my opinion.

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